Thursday, November 18, 2010

Millionaire Mindset Trait #7: Never allow non-inspirational people to influence you in a negative way.

Millionaires never allow non-inspirational people to influence them in a negative way. Non-inspirational and / or negative people will drain your energy, dampen your confidence, and poke holes in your dreams – but only if you allow them.

I actually know a lot of individuals who have people like that in their lives – sadly often a partner or one of their friends - who have tried to talk them out of their desire to create wealth. They say negative things like, “You can’t do that - sure, other people may be able to do that, but you aren’t smart enough to do it”, or “You’ll never get rich – you’re just setting yourself up for a big let down.”

The reality is, it doesn’t make any sense for you to listen to the advice of people who aren’t where you want to be in life. They’ll attempt to undermine and sabotage your efforts. While some of them may think they are doing it to “protect” you from hurt or disappointment, there are some who do it with ulterior motives. They don’t want you to succeed because then they won’t have any excuse for their own failure or mediocrity. And they may be jealous that you are taking risks and doing things that they never had the courage to do.

You’ll have a difficult time finding any millionaires who will make those types of negative, uninspiring, or confidence-crushing statements. You will also have a hard time finding millionaires who engage in those types of negative thought patterns.  Remember earlier how I discussed the power of your thoughts – millionaires know that and that’s why they don’t give any energy to entertaining negative ones.

You should only listen to people who are where you want to be in life.

Whenever you encounter people like this – the ones who often make negative statements regarding your quest for wealth – you need to ignore them or at best, take what they say with a grain of salt. If you want to stop them in their tracks, you might say something like this:

“Thank you for caring enough about me to share your thoughts and give me advice.  But, you are an average person in society who’s living inside society’s box. You make the same income as most people, and you are struggling financially just as much as everyone else. So, with all due respect, I’m not going to listen to your advice. I prefer to listen instead to someone who is actually where I want to be in life.”

Of course, you may want to stop after the first sentence if the person trying to give you advice is someone who isn’t going to be able to handle the brutal honesty contained in the rest of the response.

You’ve really got to be very careful when it comes to who you take advice from. If you don’t have friends who are millionaires to listen to, then as discussed again, flood yourself with the wisdom and knowledge of millionaires from books, audio programs, and eBooks.

To reiterate this trait, millionaires don’t listen to advice from or allow themselves to be influenced by non-inspirational, negative people.

Now, if you are doing really well and making an incredible income, you will find that you are in the position to become an inspiration to your friends and family. Of course, there will be a few who will not want to listen to you because they are jealous of you.  But for many of your friends, you will find that they are thinking to themselves, “Wow, that’s amazing!” Those are the ones you will be able to inspire – because they will be
receptive to it.

Even if they have no interest in doing the same thing you do – to copy what you do in business, your success can at least inspire them to believe that great wealth can be attained – that it is within their reach. You can be the one who helps them realize that what had seemed impossible before really is possible, because if you can do it, they know they can as well!

By the way, knowing that you have inspired other people – especially those you care about - to improve their lives, see possibilities, and actively move towards their own goals – is one of the greatest rewards you will ever experience!

Article by Mark Ling 
http://www.amazingself.com

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